If you’re like most guys, you read the title of this post and thought to yourself:
“What an idiot. Does this guy have a death wish?”
I’ll tread lightly….
First I have the utmost respect for mother’s. You have the world’s toughest job. I’m confident most young men could not endure being pregnant or child labour. I was amazed to watch my wife go from a routine pregnancy to a not so routine delivery. It was exhausting just watching my wife go through labour. She was one hell of a trooper!
The fact is women gain weight during pregnancy. It’s natural and expected. Besides all the science-y stuff going on its simple math. A pregnant woman is lugging around a growing watermelon for 9 months. You start to move less while simultaneously getting bigger and bigger.
But men get pregnant too!
There’s been a several surveys done about male pregnancy weight gain but the most noted one was conducted by a company called Onepoll. They surveyed 5,000 men and delivered some interesting results:
- Most men gained on average 14 pounds.
- Most new dad’s added 2 inches to their waist line.
- One quarter of father’s were forced to buy ‘maternity clothes’ to accommodate their growing bellies.
- Just over 40% said they frequented more restaurants to try to make the most of their time together before the birth.
- Most men admitted to snacking more because their pregnant partners were.
So what’s your excuse buddy?
We can cut ‘fathers to be’ just a tiny, itty bitty ounce of slack.
Here’s some quick science. During pregnancy men can experience stress and anxiety just as much as women can. You’re just as concerned about the future as your spouse is. You might have heard of this thing called Cortisol. Cortisol isn’t cool. In layman terms its known as the “stress hormone” and it turns up the RPM’s during periods of stress or anxiety. It gets worse.
Cortisol regulates your body’s insulin and blood sugar levels. Which means in periods of stress or anxiety it might be telling your brain to eat food when you don’t need to. Wait, it gets even worse. Cortisol is believed to control WHERE you gain the weight. And the most common place…….the belly. Here’s the kicker though. Most women will be able to lose their baby weight after pregnancy but most men don’t. They keep that spare tire…and it usually grows over time.
If you’re pretty ballsy you might be able to get away with blaming your wife for having more snack foods around the house but booze? C’mon you can’t expect anyone to take you seriously if you blame drinking more beer on your wife being pregnant.
I use to joke with my friends and family – since my wife was eating for two, I’ll be drinking for two.
While my wife was pregnant I was looking forward to having a designated driver for 9 months. I found I actually drank less when my wife was pregnant, not more. For me it wasn’t so much fun drinking a glass of wine alone when I was use to always drinking with someone else.
What to do?
When my wife was pregnant I tried to be in tune with what my wife was going through. In fact there’s a great book called Dad’s Pregnant Too. It’s a fantastic and hilarious read and I’d recommend it to every father to be. Anyways, most guys want to do everything in their power to make their wives more comfortable during pregnancy. I know I did. I realized the best way for me to do that was by being in the best shape mentally and physically. Coming from my own experience I’ll admit it was a bit harder to stay on track when my wife was pregnant, but not impossible. Just took some extra work.
Of course when she held a gun to my head I would graciously indulge her cupcake cravings. That was every now and then though.
I tried to keep what I was putting into my mouth in check and not eat any different then I did before. I ended up actually loosing weight while my wife was pregnant.
Make fitness something you can do together.
We are a pretty active couple and as my wife started to get bigger we obviously had to slow things down a bit. Many people might have looked at my wife and said she’s tiny to begin with so that’s why she didn’t gain too much weight. The truth is she was pretty active in all stages of her pregnancy. We both were. When she started to get bigger she would scale down her workouts but kept working out and being active all the way up until delivery. We made fitness something we did together. We realized we didn’t need to go out to dinner to spend as much time as possible together. As long as we were doing something together that’s all that mattered.
The Take away.
We’re blessed with this beautiful thing called willpower. Use it! Just because your pregnant spouse is having cravings doesn’t mean you need to indulge your every whim. Having your wife pregnant makes the perfect opportunity to start a new workout plan or even cut back on the booze. If you’re mentally and physically in shape, it will make you extra supportive for your partner when she really needs you. It’s also more motivation to try to get in better health so you can be a good example to your future child.
So whacha think? Did anyone out there gain weight or lose weight while your partner was pregnant? Any tips? Comments are always encouraged….good and bad.
Keep the blue side up.
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